“Am I there yet?” is the question, not “am I good enough?”

“Am I there yet?” is the question, not “am I good enough?”
December 27, 2013 chasporter

Recent research on the best approach to coaching has used brain imaging to analyze how a focus on dreams and goals instead of failings affects the brain differently. These findings have great implications for how to best coach someone – including yourself — and help them to improve performance. According to this post in the Harvard Business Review, coaching that focuses on the positive goal to be achieved rather than framing the challenge as a personal flaw to be overcome makes achieving the goal that much easier.

Talking about your positive goals and dreams activates brain centers that open you up to new possibilities. But if you change the conversation to what you should do to fix yourself, it closes you down.

This makes so much sense when coaching yourself and others. Rather than judge my actions as “right” or “wrong”, a nonjudgemental, continuous focus on my dream and goal produces energy and action that leads to continuous iteration and course correction rather than a negative or positive judgement about myself.

Remember, the question is “am I there yet?”, not “am I good enough?” when chasing your dreams and pursuing your goals.