The top 5 regrets people express on their deathbed

The top 5 regrets people express on their deathbed
November 19, 2013 chasporter

It’s said that nothing makes life more worth living than the end of it. From where I sit today the end still feels far off, but of course I don’t know when it will come. What I do know is death is closer today than it was yesterday, and that alone is a reminder to make the most of every moment. Here’s hoping this post about the top five deathbed regrets will move you and I to live differently and make the most of what we have in front of us right now:

For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again.

Here are the most common five.

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier